Tuesday, Feb 1, 2011Family Love Defines Your Home

Our home life is defined by the family love that is in it. The love in marriage is the key building block to creating a home that is filled with love and laughter.

It’s fairly obvious if you look at the male and female aspects of each individual’s mentality, that males and females are designed to work together. This pictures forth in the male and female anatomy as well. If we can nurture our male (the ability to reason) and our female (the ability to reach a conclusion) to work together, we can achieve harmony inside our minds. It’s no different in our interpersonal relationships or inside our families. We achieve joy and harmony when the males and females are united in harmony.

Although marriage does not have the place of honor in the 21st century as it did in the past, for many it is the earthly symbol of the union of the male and the female in a relationship where common bonds, goals, experiences; where love and joy are the mainstay.

If you love someone and if they love you, it is one of life’s greatest blessings. Our earthly experience begins with our parents loving us. This is followed by loving experiences with our friends, our sweethearts, our lovers, our children, and our community. Love is essential to the human condition. We have seen the result of lack of love in the orphanages of war-torn countries.

Inside of your family, what are the ways you show family love to one another? What are the things you laugh about together? Is there gentle teasing? Are there practical jokes? Do you join together to laugh at the foibles of one another?

I know of a family who has as a favorite game “Get Joseph.” He is their baby brother and he is fiercely competitive, always wanting to win. Because he was the baby, this was indulged in card games he played with his father, but as he grew older, this wanting to win got a bit old. So his two brothers and two sisters (plus all of their mates including Joseph’s own wife) formed a coterie to play jokes on Joseph so that while he might have thought he was winning and playing a joke on him, really, the tables were turned. When Joseph turned 40, the family did a roast and shared all the tricks they’d been playing on him behind his back. There was uproarious laughter at that party!

In a marriage, when you integrate love, sensuality, sexuality, friendship and loving kindness, you foster a bond of true spirit. You think about your partner throughout the day and extend a sense of responsibility toward them and their life experiences. You are united physically, mentally and spirituality. You continue the human race with your love for one another. You affirm one another and surrender selfishness for the sake of the other.

I would love to see love in marriage become strengthened once again. If you’ve been married for quite a while, can you think of ways to revitalize your marriage and experience the love and the joy of it’s early days? Do you still hold hands? Do you leave love notes for one another? Do you cuddle at night? Do you laugh together? Do you consciously make an effort to listen fully, to touch, to kiss?

If you have children, the best gift you can give them is the sight of their parents loving one another. Foster this family love and your home life will truly be a blessing.

“In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” ~ Eva Burrows